Cuban TikToker Yily G Bring, now living in Austin, Texas, posted a video on TikTok addressing some of the common criticisms aimed at newly arrived immigrants in the United States. In her message, @yilygbring questioned the accusations of ungratefulness that are often directed at those who have been welcomed by family or friends upon arriving in the country.
“Everyone talks about the newcomer, saying they're ungrateful, that they should leave... quickly get out of my house,” she said in her video, where she acknowledged that many newcomers "behave poorly" due to preconceived notions or misconceptions they bring with them.
However, she questioned whether this justifies mistreating them or demanding perpetual gratitude: “Is the newcomer obligated to be a slave to the person who receives them?”
In her video, Yily also shared a personal experience, expressing her frustration with how some people expect newcomers to endure mistreatment just because they received help: “Why do I have to put up with you treating me like crap and using me for your things my whole life just because I have to thank you for receiving me in this country?”
Given the sensitivity of the topic, which is a recurrent debate on social media, the video garnered numerous reactions, many supporting Yily's point of view.
“As someone said... I thank you, but I owe you nothing”; “They abuse those who are taken in, and nobody appreciates them no matter how well they behave”; “Never in my life have I heard so much truth. Someone who realizes and says it, that the coin has two sides”; “It's the pure truth, one has to live a life of gratitude, and it's not just Cubans”; “Behind my house, there's someone who has been fixing his family's house since he arrived, he's a tremendous hardworking person”; “You are absolutely right, it is exactly like that,” some commenters echoed her sentiments.
Others expressed different viewpoints: “The only thing I see in this matter is not to receive anyone and let each person manage on their own”; “Most newcomers behave poorly and bring bad habits”; “It's complicated, but the truth is many don't know how to behave”; “In the end, those who receive have to put up with everything, and it's not fair”; “Many arrive with airs of grandeur and don't value the help they receive”; “It's true that some abuse, but there are newcomers who think they are superior and don't respect those who help them.”
What do you think of this perspective? Do you believe the criticisms towards newcomers are justified or unwarranted? Leave your comment and join the debate.
Debate on Newcomer Gratitude and Behavior
Given the controversial nature of the topic, here are some frequently asked questions to shed more light on the debate about the behavior and expectations of newcomers in the USA.
Why do some people believe that newcomers are ungrateful?
Some people think newcomers are ungrateful because they may not show continuous appreciation to those who help them upon arrival. This perception can stem from misunderstandings or cultural differences.
What are the common misconceptions about newly arrived immigrants?
Common misconceptions include beliefs that newcomers do not want to integrate, that they are lazy, or that they bring negative behaviors from their home countries. These are often based on stereotypes rather than individual actions.
How can we better support newcomers to the USA?
Better support can be provided through understanding, patience, and offering resources to help them integrate. Encouraging open communication and avoiding judgment can also help newcomers feel more welcome and appreciated.